Ever felt like you're running the show in your relationship and like you're wearing the pants when you would way rather be slipping into a silk dress while being wined, dined, supported and romanced? Is that too much to ask? We say, no, it's not.
Do you also crave a connection where you can simply be yourself and let your partner take charge? Where he's not asking you "What should we do this week?" and wanting to "go with the flow"? Well, darling, you're not alone, and the good new is that your quantum feminine power has the capacity to elevate his masculinity.
In this blog post, we're going to dive into the enchanting world of polarity in relationships from a woman's perspective. We'll explore why it's absolutely crucial to embrace your feminine prowess, discuss how hustle culture has thrown a wrench into our love lives, and provide you with some tips on how to create the perfect balance with your partner so you can bring more ease into your life and let him step into his most rugged manliness.
1. The Magic of Polarity: Dancing with Your Feminine and His Masculine
Let's begin with the concept of polarity in a relationship. It's all about the captivating dance between masculine and feminine energies. Each of these energies brings its own unique flavor to the mix.
- Feminine Traits: Feminine energy is a gentle, intuitive force. It's about flowing with your emotions, embracing your sensuality, and tapping into your nurturing side.
- Masculine Traits: Masculine energy, on the other hand, is assertive and goal-oriented. It's all about taking charge, providing, and being a steadfast leader.
Yes, women and men possess feminine and masculine traits, and when you're at work you will likely be more in your masculine, but for a relationship that sings in harmony, a woman must gracefully step into her feminine essence when she's at home and allow her man to shine in his masculine brilliance. It's not about giving up your independence, darling; it's about savoring his support.
It's easy to place blame and adopt a defensive attitude of "Well, if he would just step up and lead, I could finally feel safe, protected and able to step back and be led" but you can only control what you can control, and it starts with you!
2. The 'Boss Babe' Phenomenon: A Detour from Grace
In recent times, the relentless hustle culture has tempted many women to adopt the "boss babe" persona. While it's amazing to see women scaling the peaks of success, this trend has, rather regrettably, led many away from their innate grace and feminine allure.
Here's a little secret: You can have it all—career success, financial independence, and a relationship that sizzles with passion. In fact, tapping into your feminine magic can unleash your creativity and attract more abundance into your life.
You just need to leave the boss-babe energy at the office.
3. The Struggles of Imbalanced Polarity: When You Wear the Pants
Have you found yourself, more often than not, shouldering the responsibilities of leadership, management, and control in your relationship? Does it sometimes feel like you're the one wearing the pants, and you're exhausted from the nagging?
Such an imbalance in polarity can be emotionally draining, leaving you feeling like you're stuck in a never-ending loop of frustration, disappointment, and unsupportiveness. It's time to turn the tables.
4. The Inner Alchemy: Healing Deep Beliefs
If you've attempted to step back and let your partner take the lead, only to be disappointed time and again, it's time to embark on some inner exploration. Deep-seated beliefs about being unsupported, unworthy, or unsafe can cast a shadow over your relationship.
To truly empower your partner to step into his role, start by tending to these beliefs. You possess the power to rewrite your story and create a nurturing, supportive environment for both of you.
5. Striking the Balance: A Joint Effort
Now, let's get to the exciting part—how to have those conversations with your partner about balancing polarity without diminishing his masculinity.
- Communication: Approach the conversation with love. Express your longing for a more balanced dynamic, and reassure him of your unwavering faith in his capabilities. Don't wait for a moment that you're annoyed at him for not taking the garbage out, do it from a neutral space with the intention of exploring polarity together.
- Accountability: Don't place the blame and check your ego at the door, even though we get how hard that can be when all you want to do is relax and you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Explain how your overly masculine tendencies to control are from a place of fear that has nothing to do with him, and invite him to support you in your healing journey. You will be shocked at how quickly his energy will adjust when you do your own healing work!
- Compliment his masculinity: Before you dive into where he can improve his masculine energy, rattle off a few examples of when he does a good job at leading, such as "I love when we are on vacation and you book all the reservations, the flights, and all I have to do is show up! I feel like I can be myself, not be stressed, and be a more loving wife when I feel like things are being taken care of. I love when you lead me!"
- A plan of action: Rather than jumping into the POA on your own, controlling the situation and saying "This is what we need to do," ask him what he needs from you, and what he thinks you can do as a couple to find more balance. Listen to him and appreciate his feedback rather than jumping in right away with your ideas!
Embracing the enchantment of polarity in your relationship is a transformative journey. By reconnecting with your feminine grace and allowing your partner to shine in his masculine brilliance, you create a love affair that's truly exquisite. Bid adieu to the "boss babe" persona when you're at home, and behold how your relationship blossoms. Remember, you hold the reins to your destiny, and with love and conscious effort, you can craft the harmonious, passionate partnership you've always desired.